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Catch and Release

Was just sitting and thinking about all I am grateful for and one odd thought that crossed my mind is that I truly appreciate now recognizing the messages—the unhealthy messages—that repeat in my mind and likely have for a long time. I know it seems like an odd thing to note, but it is really a great thing when you come to place of living consciously aware of the tendency of your mind to interpret situations, interactions, etc. to mean the same thing over and over, or to reinforce a message that you’ve likely held since childhood.

Some messages that repeat for people are: “I am not enough,” “I am not good enough,” “I am in this by myself,” “No one will ever love me,” “It will never get better,’ and even “I am just like my ______.” In a time, when positive affirmations are so prevalent, one can only imagine what repeating negative phrases such as these can do to shift the trajectory of ones life.

A few months ago, I came to the realization that one of my “messages” is “I am not enough” (and the other version “I am not doing enough”). It stung when I realized how many areas I repeat this horrible phrase, but it was such a gift to my life to see it and now make a conscious decision to acknowledge it and dismiss it as not true.

CATCHNRELEASE

A lot of times we think that ignoring the negative is the way to stay positive, but the truth is that while we are ignoring it, our mind is often storing and embedding the message deep within us and it will come wafting up in so many situations. One of the best things we can do for ourselves is to acknowledge the negative message—the horrible phrase that our “inner critic” says about us that makes us feel bad about ourselves when we make a mistake, someone blames us for something, or things just don’t turn out as we planned. The more that we become keen to catch those thoughts, the sooner we can overcome them.

Now, when I find myself feeling bad about something (usually an interaction with someone else that didn’t go as planned), I think to myself, “Oh, that’s just another “I am not enough, which I know is not true. I’m awesome!” and I let it go.

So today, as I created my list of gratitude, I find myself grateful for the ability to catch my negative messages and release them. So that is my my advice to you. Begin to catch and release the irritating, self-defeating messages of your inner critic and release them knowing that they are no longer your truths.

 

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Season Reason or A Lifetime

Sometimes our seasons last so long simply because of the meaning we place on them. Things that could be temporary endure far beyond their intended time because we hold on to them with our beliefs.

When we learn to just state the facts and find the blessings in each season, we may find that we will pass through some seasons so quickly.

Here are some common “seasons” that we may hold on to unnecessarily:

1. My whole family is overweight so I’m probably always gonna be fat.

2. All the women on my my dad’s side of the family are diabetics so I will likely have it, too.

3. The economy is really bad so this is gonna be a really bad season for my business.

4. I am knocking on 40 and still haven’t found ‘Mr. Right” so I’m probably never gonna get married.

The truth is that the first part of the sentence may be a fact, but the last part of each of these statements is merely an opinion. Just as much as the expected projection could be true, a whole different truth that was not predicted could be possible if we don’t put that meaning on the facts. These could be just as easily true:

1. My whole family is overweight, so I am very committed to healthy eating and working out. I am going to change the course of my family’s health and wellness.

2. “All the women on my dad’s side of the family are diabetics, so I focus a lot of energy on wellness, exercise, and diet. I’m going to be the exception to the rule.”

3. “They say the economy is really bad right now so I am looking for ways to offer my customers more value at a lower cost.”

4. “I am knocking on 40 and single. I enjoy my own company and I’m open to meeting someone special.”

 

 
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Posted by on May 19, 2015 in Uncategorized

 

When You Know How It Feels

 

 

 

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This is VERY true. The other day, I was in the post office and the woman before me did not have enough to pay the postage for her letter. She needed less than a dollar if I recall, and told the cashier she didn’t have enough. I immediately went in my purse to search for the change she needed.

See, I can remember being in her exact position, at a post office in DeKalb searching my car for change to mail whatever it was I had that day. I don’t recall if I found enough money that day…. I also remember, one of my most empowering memories… a memory that reminds me that no matter how “broke” the enemy would like to convince me I am (and I refuse to receive that nonsense), I am WAAAAYYYY better off than I was a few years ago.

I remember a particular day. I was a little over six months pregnant and we had no food in our apartment. And when I say “no food” I mean NO FOOD. I left our place determined to bring food home, to make a miracle. I knew that if I could go to the Walmart that was next door, with the change I had, I could make a meal for my family. My plan was to buy ONE pack of shrimp ramen noodles and a box of generic saltine crackers. The ramen there was always 17 cents and the saltines were fifty cents. I had just enough to cover my TWO items plus tax.

I was so proud and excited that I figured out a brilliant plan to create a meal. So I walked out into the hot Marietta, Georgia sun, with my swollen ankles, in some run over Family Dollar flip flops (the only shoes I could tolerate at the time) excited! Got to Walmart, grabbed my ONE pack of ramen noodles, headed to the cracker aisle, only to discover SALTINES HAD GONE UP TO 75 CENTS! I was devastated. I stood there staring at the crackers, hoping I was just looking at the wrong ones. I mean, they had been that price forever, they were that price just days prior. How could this be?

So, I took my change, went back to the ramen aisle and grabbed another pack, walked to the front of the store and got in line, and held back the tears as best I could. Focused my energy on overcoming the embarrassment of having to count out my pennies to pay for the ramen, and left a drop of energy for gratitude that we would eat that day.

Marlene Dillon, author of I’m Proud to Be Natural Me!
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